It's controversial to want to share smoke or even drinks with a client. For good reason. The providers and clients that prefer sober shared experiences are completely valid in doing so. There are quite a few variables and some people may not be comfortable wit...h this until they are more familiar with each other.
It personally took me a while to be comfortable hosting clients in an altered state. The first time was a fabulous experience. Partially because we took the time to plan the date beforehand and set boundaries and expectations. Also, we knew each other quite well at that point. We took a pontoon ride and slipped off into another dimension! I will never forget that.
I have absolutely had some amazing sober rendezvous. But there's nothing like a shared high. Intimate moments and real connection get me high anyway. Sometimes a really great conversation over dinner can get me high. Long walks in the woods get me high. Sitting on the shore of a large body of water gets me high. The energy from large groups of people especially with live music gets me high. All of these things are fabulous to share with a romantic partner. The experiences bond you and open the door to a heightened intimate experience. Which, I'm aware not everyone is looking for. Especially for those who prefer to enjoy those experiences with a life partner. But, this is generally my goal.
It's very ceremonial! I like to grind and roll while we chat! Partners that I have smoked with, feel more comfortable. I recognize this may be largely placebo and a Pavlov brain trick. It allows us a moment to leave the reality that we walked in the door with and join the reality we are creating together. Enveloped in our smokey bubble we can be ourselves and enjoy learning each other. It's a fast way to create that connection. Not to mention its an aphrodisiac, a word no hedonist can resist. "For hims" has a great article about this very subject. https://www.forhims.com/blog/is-marijuana-aphrodisiac
Another reason I prefer Cannabis to other intoxicants is that it feels safer. I am not pharmacologist or doctor of course. But, I don't think it reacts with medications and other environmental factors in as many negative ways. If you're taking medication you definitely need to do your own research on this. https://www.drugs.com/drug-interactions/cannabis.html
I'm much less comfortable with alcohol, I have had unsavory personal and professional experiences with that substance and definitely do not recommend getting drunk or being drunk with a provider or a client. I have managed bars and bartended from the age of 16, I have had my fill of drunks and being drunk myself. I'm not saying I don't have a sip of whiskey or glass of wine to take the edge off...but drunk is something completely different. We all know that.
If you're new to Cannabis, you may want to familiarize yourself with how it affects you before you partake with a provider or client. No one wants to make a bad impression because they can't handle their shit. Babysitting an adult is not sexy. If you find yourself wanting to explore this but are a weed rookie I'd suggest experimenting on your own in a controlled environment before introducing the erotic element with a partner. When smoking, your high should last for about three hours. Edibles are a completely different animal. There are so many resources online for the new user. No reason to fly by the seat of your pants. https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/news/a23424/beginners-guide-to-weed/
Do you Party? Provider's get this question all the time. It's pretty ambiguous. Before asking a provider if she offers "Green Dates" do your research! Check her social media. You will likely find the answer there. If not, ask specifically for a 420 experience. Asking if she parties may get you blocked or even blacklisted depending on the person you ask. My assumption when I am asked this question is that the client is asking about booger sugar or meth. I try not to shame folks who responsibly use any substance to enhance their life. But, that is not something I will ever offer. Communication!
If you decide this is the route you'd like to take with a provider please book a longer date. Most 420 providers offer longer sessions at a discounted rate if you're bringing green gifts other than cash. For instance, I usually offer an extra half hour to 45 minutes. If you're expecting her to provide the green...please tip her well. :) Don't ever expect her time or her green for gratis. But, you know that already.